Niqab-haters

Vexed guy (white, middle-aged, casual dress, looks like a scally) walks past me from opposite direction then back to me: "Excuse me, can I ask you a question?"


Me: "Yeah sure."


Coming right up to me: "Can I see your face?"


Me: "What? No."


Idiot, more vexed: "Why not?"


Me: "What's your problem?"


Idiot, shouting now, wild gestures, people looking our way: "You can see my face, why can't I see your f***ing face?!"


Me, getting worried that he's close enough and angry enough to snatch my niqab off walk away.



Idiot carries on ranting but I can only make out "...dress properly!"



I come home and tell my brother about it and he loses it with me demanding why I didn't call him straight away. Although I was annoyed by this incident and admittedly quite shaken because I thought he could snatch my niqab off, I didn't think it's anything to start riots over but my brother thought *&^%$#* like that need to be taught a lesson otherwise Muslim women won't be safe to walk around without being harrassed. My thinking is: women in niqab obviously provoke certain people, maybe a lot of people. For this idiot, for some reason, the mere sight of me was enough to make him rave. But I think as Muslims who are obviously Muslim just by appearance have to expect these kind of reactions from people. To expect otherwise is unrealistic. It's not nice but I'm sure it's normal. I'm interested to hear what kind of comments/reactions you guys get from the public to prove/disprove my theory that my brother overreacted and what happened yesterday was irritating but kind of normal.

I'm thinking of closing this blog. I might post my adab notes (about the only useful purpose to the blog) on someone else's (more beneficial blog) or just keep them to myself.

They weren't all thick

Abraham Lincoln: "Nearly all men can stand adversity. But if you want to test a man's character, give him power."

Talking to myself

I sometimes think aloud. That's different to talking to myself but I suppose it appears to others that I'm talking to myself. So when my sisters ask, "Why are you talking to yourself?" I just reply with, "I know of no-one better to talk to than myself."

Well it shuts them up.

Pseudo-Islamic feminism

OK it IS a fact that women do get oppressed. It is a fact that people get oppressed. It is a fact humans sin. When humans sin they either infringe on the rights of Allah and/or the rights of creation. This can be in the form of abusing someone, stealing someone's property, vandalising, oppressing etc. When men oppress women, they are wrong, they are not giving them their due rights, they are sinning, plain and simple.

Those who don't care that they are sinning i.e. they aren't religious have their own excuses for meting out their oppression, abuse, injustice and those who are religious will have their excuses too. The good and honest of them will put their hands up when they realise they've done wrong and repent. Those who are too pig-headed, stubborn and arrogant will be like the one who can't give up smoking or listening to music and look for every excuse in the book (whether that's their warped interpretation of the Qur'an or a twisting of a fiqhi opinion) to carry on with his sinning.

Why am I going into this? Cos I'm sick and tired of this trend of bashing men because they're men. I get tense when I read sisters - i.e. female MUSLIMS- dangerously discussing whether in Islam women get a raw deal, whether Allah has a'oothubillah been unjust in His perfect Shari'ah. I'm not speaking as someone who's just heard of women who are mistreated, a by-stander. Close friends of mine and family have been treated like crap by men, I've seen it, wiped their tears etc. But what good would I acheive having a chip on my shoulder about men? If I am a cynic as a result of men mistreating women am I actually doing good to myself or even damaging the perpetrators of injustice (if I wanted to be vengeful)? Or am I damaging myself and potentially damaging my future relationships? Not only that, if I go online and spread my victimised feminist da'wah the least I'm doing is putting fear into by-standers and making them cynical "men are all dogs" feminists, but worse, I'd really be treading on thin ice with my Lord if I did what some of these sisters do, by saying things that equate to "women have it bad in Islam".

With the risk of sounding like I'm bashing men myself - but I have to be fair - I do have to say men are not absolved from blame for this. Many of these women do not bash just because it makes them feel good; there is background and a context why they feel wronged. But many a time, it's difficult to see WHY these sisters are complaining, what exactly they are complaining about and with the attitude of criticising Islam a'oothubillah, frankly, the reasons cannot be heard due to the moaning and ultimately begin to matter little.

Perspective is everything

The difference between an atheist and an agnostic.

Atheist says "There is no god" which is half way to the kalimah, all that's missing is "worthy of worship except Allah".

Agnostic says "there may or may not be a god, Allahu 'alam." :-) (I like that joke)

Anyway which do you guys think is "better"?

Double negatives are a no-no

Apart from being annoying (I use this word quite a lot these days don't I?) trying to figure out double negatives, why are they wrong? I mean grammatically?

Things that really annoy me

1. Girly girls "lol"ling all over the place. NO-ONE WANTS TO KNOW YOU JUST "LOL"LED! Especially men.
2. Girls knocking men just for the heck of it and men knocking girls just for the heck of it.
3. Girls who eat like rabbits when they don't even need to diet.

*Relieved sigh*

That feels so much better.

I so miss my phone!!! It's not here yet. Of all things to leave behind!

Don't be indecisive - people don't take your decisions seriously.

Is being indecisive and fickle the same thing...?

XoXoXo

I'm not keen on hugs and kisses. I didn't used to mind them before and even now it has its' time and place but not like every time you meet someone or worse, when you meet someone for the first time. What do you guys think? And to make this post useful and practical, please shake hands if you must have physical contact with me. Or a simple salam and smile will suffice.