Wednesday 18 April 2007
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I'm not keen on hugs and kisses. I didn't used to mind them before and even now it has its' time and place but not like every time you meet someone or worse, when you meet someone for the first time. What do you guys think? And to make this post useful and practical, please shake hands if you must have physical contact with me. Or a simple salam and smile will suffice.
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thank you thank you, THANKYOU now i know i'm not the only one!
it is sunnah to hug and stuff right? which is why i feel so bad and have been trying to get over it, but i just don't like physical contact with people i barely know. and people just think i'm being snobby:(
Actually give me proof that it IS sunnah. And what's the kisses thing about, is that sunnah too?
hhhm i just assumed it always was because that's what everyone does. isn't it supposed to show sisterly affection? i'm all for that, but i can do that by smiling.
from now, we shall pinch each others cheeks to show affection. or something.
ok, but you can't pinch mine:)
Definitely, i don't like it when people hug one another on every occasion. what is all that about?!? To be honest i find it complete fake and i dont like doing things for the sake of it. I understand when you may not have seen someone for long time and genuinely glad to see them or when you need comforting. Those are times that may necessisate a hug, in my opinion. But im like ok you want to hug me, grin and bear cos don't want to be rude and offend them by turning away. At my workplace, they like each other everyday. Really does my head in. Well most of them now know that i dont like hugs, so then they tease me more about it on purpose. Hey, Allah must group people together of like. so glad we dont go around calling one another 'darling, babe' urghhhh!! i say 'love' sometimes out of sarcasm, but nah im not one for pet names either. dont think i would like my husband calling me darling, or princess, *cringe* nah........another unique personal term is ok......he'll just have to be extremely creative!!
I say 'Love' Just to try and sound Manc. I don't like hugging, it takes too much time in that little space they call a shoe area at makki masjid. You can't get out the door coz everyone is 'hugging'.
lol we must look like the coldest people ever. ok, i'm adding you two to the list of "salaam and smile will suffice" from now on.
Hugging and kissing isnt sunnah. Handshaking is which is what I try to do. I always feel awkward hugging and not knowing how many times to do it n stuff. Just shake hands with me in future guys unless I havent seen you for ages then I'll actually feel the love in the hug lol.
Here's a fatwa on the issue:
http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=60351&ln=eng&txt=greeting%20kiss%20hug
I knew there was a good reason we were friends :-).
i've never done it before, but recently as ive been meeting more sisters i've noticed more hugging and experienced it too! And as ive just recently started visiting more masjids and islamic conferences, i love seeing the sisterhood and love. That we have Allah as the thing we all have in common. If it wasnt for islam i wouldn't hug this random lady!
i know of people who while shaking your hand they hug and kiss you!! Was a bit daunting at first...but im feeling the love and loving it!!!
But i understand the need for personal space!!
Anonymous - it was nice at first when I first discovered that is what practising sisters just do (I never asked why :-S) but now it's just annoying.
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